Bride Kicks A Family OUT Of Her Wedding – Was She Wrong?

I’m recently engaged, and have begun the seemingly-insurmountable task of planning my wedding.

I want something teeny-tiny. We’re talking like 40 people max. We’ve begun making a list of who we need to invite… and my dream wedding of 40 people looks like it might balloon pretty rapidly.

Something I’ve yet to consider is whether or not I’ll invite kids. I mean, the very youngest member of my family is 12. No one in the “new” generation has babies of their own yet, so it’s naturally going to be an older gathering.

I entirely understand couples who don’t invite kids. They know what type of party they’re going for, and it’s their decision.

One bride was put in the ugly situation of having to ENFORCE that rule. She took to the internet to ask if she had done the right thing.

According to Fox:

An anonymous bride took to Reddit earlier this week to ask if she was in the wrong for kicking out a couple of wedding guests for bringing their two children to a kid-free ceremony.

The bride, who admits she allowed her niece at the ceremony (she was a flower girl) but not the reception, says she informed guests on the invitations that no children would be allowed. Despite this, she says, the couple arrived to the ceremony with an infant and toddler in tow, according to the post.

See… I think that’s BS.

Whether or not kids should be allowed is one thing. But if the couple SPECIFICALLY requests no kids, and then you show up with your kids ANYWAY… you’re kind of an A$$.

Get a sitter, or don’t come. Your infant doesn’t want to go.

“At the actual wedding ceremony, I let it slide. I was preoccupied for obvious reasons,” the woman wrote. “I also thought that maybe they planned not to attend the reception or to have someone pick the kids up before it started.”

The couple, however, arrived to the reception with the kids, one of whom was crying and the other “appearing cranky,” according to the bride.

Instead of ignoring it this time (the bride claims the infant was fussy during the wedding ceremony), she says she enlisted the help of the wedding planner, who proceeded to ask if the couple was planning to have their kids picked up.

An argument soon ensued, “so I went over to help,” the bride says.

“The wife gave a sort of apology and then assured me that they were capable of minding their own children to make sure they didn’t get in the way of anything. I said that wasn’t really the point. That’s when my now-husband comes over and he and the other woman’s husband begin going back and forth and things got a little heated.”

The bride eventually “snapped and said that they just needed to go” during an “embarrassing” scene, the post explains.

I’m STILL team bride, here. No kids means no kids. The fact that YOU think you can keep YOUR kids under control doesn’t mean you get to ignore that request. This isn’t your wedding, it’s theirs.

The bride then asked Reddit if she was being an “a—hole“ for making the couple leave, and so far, the majority of the responses have been in her favor.

“Absolutely [not],’ one Redditor responded. “You stated it on the invitation and asked them politely first. I feel awful that a day that was meant to be the best of your life was tarnished by the event.”

“Agree!” another said. “The a—holes we’re the ones who brought their kids to an explicitly child-free event. And then caused a scene when they were asked to leave.”

“Isn’t it funny how some people instantly decide that the rules no longer apply to them once they become parents[?]” another asked.

The bride later returned to Reddit to post an update, thanking Reddit for its support and summing up their feedback.

“What I’ve gotten from this is that most people think that the couple was rude,” she wrote. “There are also a select few who feel that it’s a–holish to have a kid-free wedding at all which is…  interesting.”

I don’t. I LOVE kids – I also don’t think anyone is under any sort of responsibility to cater to OTHER people’s kids.

You know what I’ve already realized about wedding planning? Everyone keeps saying this is YOUR big day, when in reality, it’s YOUR big day to make sure you don’t hurt anyone ELSE’S feelings.

So… what are YOUR thoughts?