OPINION | This article contains political commentary which reflects the author's opinion.
I’m going to be honest, I thought Harry Styles on the cover of Vogue in a ballgown was unnecessary and dumb. You’re not “breaking ground” when you’re literally doing the same thing all of the other celebrities are doing. Go sit down somewhere.
Because of the crazy world we live in, Candace Owens is under attack (for the millionth time this year) for pointing out the obvious. Regarding Styles’ cover photo Owens wrote, “There is no society that can survive without strong men. The East knows this. In the west, the steady feminization of our men at the same time that Marxism is being taught to our children is not a coincidence. It is an outright attack. Bring back manly men.”
Cue the leftist meltdowns and Harpy-screeching.
The outlandish emotional response simply validates Candace’s statement. The feminization of our society is not doing it any good. Candace did not say Harry Styles was a terrible person but because progressive leftists think anyone who disagrees with their ideology is a hateful human being, they assume anyone we don’t agree with is someone we hate as well.
It’s like trying to have a serious discussion with a toddler who’s missed their bedtime by three hours. They’re just angry and incoherent no matter what we say.
Let’s break this is down. The definition of manly is – Of, related to, or characteristic of men, especially when considered traditionally masculine, as in being courteous or direct. Toxic masculinity is the direct result of society demonizing and feminizing natural male traits.
Trigger warning – Aggression is not bad, dominance is not bad, ambition is not bad. What IS bad, is having those traits and then not being directed in how to harness them and use them wisely. Aggressive men have defeated cruelty, terrorism, and tyranny. Dominant men have built civilizations, and quelled mob rule. Ambitious men don’t stumble upon fortune, they risk failure to thrive and aggrandize life for themselves and their families.
The Mythopoetic Men’s Movement is a therapeutic, spiritual, self-help movement for men that began in the 1980’s that you’d be hard-pressed to find any positive information about on the internet. They focused on male mentoring programs, where men lead the way in showing boys how to develop into healthy men, they used support groups, and they tried to develop boys curriculum for schools. It was a movement for men, by men, to bolster personal growth and aid in the challenges facing men in society. Many of the workshops surrounding this therapy were intended for men to reconnect with their inner selves and the lost masculinity that had been diluted by institutions and the feminists movement. Boy, if they could see us now!
Compare the Mythopoetic Movement to the men’s movement of the 60’s and 70’s, the liberation men’s movement, and the pro-feminist men’s movements which all sought to “liberate men from the confines of masculinity” and “deconstruct male identity.” Which method of development sounds like it would be most helpful to a young man trying to find his place in the world?
Less masculine men are not better men, they are weaker men. And I would argue that weak men are dangerous men. Strong, masculine men see it as their job to protect women. Strong, masculine men are going to ask you out with the understanding that they might be rejected and life will go on. Weak men will not intervene to protect you when the situation calls. And weak men who can’t handle rejection will not ask you out, they will lie and connive their way into your life, or they’ll drug your drink and drag you home rather than risk rejection. I know which kind of man I’d rather surround myself with, and I know what kind of man I’m teaching my son to be.
If I’m honest with myself, I’m guiding my son as much as I can, but it’s my husband’s job to teach my son to be a man. I’m really just providing moral support and stepping in to fake confidence when needed during deployments.
I know you shouldn’t trash talk people’s kids, but I’m gonna. Some of the most punk-ass losers I’ve ever met were raised by single moms. No offense to single moms, it’s a tough job, but you are not the mother and the father. You’re simply missing a father.
I know the haters are coming, but I’m going to say it anyway – How are you going to teach your boy to be a man when you don’t even know how to pick a man, let alone be one?? Oop, I went there. And I totally meant it. Get that kid into a mentorship program, have your brother or uncle who has a successful job and family spend weekends with him, do anything but decide that your feminized understanding of masculine traits will show him the way.
I say this as someone who was a single mom early in life. I did not celebrate Mother’s Day and Father’s Day for myself, I recognized that I needed to supplement what I did not have with mentorship programs and relationships until I got married and my husband provided that leadership.
Feminism is fueled solely by women, and feminine men, trying to dictate what it means to be a man, which masculine traits are useful in society, and which traits are toxic. The stronger the feminist hold is on society and our learning institutions the more toxic masculinity we seem to have, so clearly this method isn’t having a positive outcome. Ponder that for a second you rabid feminists.
Reason number 2,389 why I love Candace Owens is that she has only affirmed her original statement since being attacked. Here are her follow up tweets.
Since I’m trending I’d like to clarify what I meant when I said “bring back manly men”. I meant: Bring back manly men. Terms like “toxic masculinity”, were created by toxic females. Real women don’t do fake feminism. Sorry I’m not sorry.
PSA: Mining pictures on the internet of men in dresses is not going to suddenly make me attracted to men in dresses. I’m impervious to woke culture. Showing me 50 examples of something won’t make it any less stupid. #BringBackManlyMen
Feminist theory does not change the fact that most women want strong, responsible men they can depend on instead of passive, tentative men who do not defend women or provide for them. The left demonizes masculinity because they don’t understand what it is, nor do they have a solid grasp of male/female relationships over history to understand how masculinity has shaped our world in a positive way.
When feminists are in strong, stable relationships that last decades and raise productive members of society, I’ll consider listening to what advice they have to give the rest of us peons that do not subscribe to the ideology of toxic masculinity. Until then, I will continue taking care of my husband and children, embracing my femininity, and leaning on my husband for what I lack the same way he leans on me when needed.
I considered delving into how Democratic policies are responsible for increasing the rate of fatherless homes across the country, but I’ve agitated enough progressives for today. Instead I’ll leave you with these crushing statistics of what the lack of masculinity has done to our youth.
85% of youth who are currently in prison grew up in a fatherless home. (Texas Department of Corrections)
7 out of every 10 youth that are housed in state-operated correctional facilities, including detention and residential treatment, come from a fatherless home. (U.S. Department of Justice)
39% of students in the United States, from the first grade to their senior year of high school, do not have a father at home. Children without a father are 4 times more likely to be living in poverty than children with a father. (National Public Radio)
Children from fatherless homes are twice as likely to drop out from school before graduating than children who have a father in their lives. (National Public Radio)
24.7 million children in the United States live in a home where their biological father is not present. That equates to 1 in every 3 children in the United States not having access to their father. (National Public Radio)
Girls who live in a fatherless home have a 100% higher risk of suffering from obesity than girls who have their father present. Teen girls from fatherless homes are also 4 times more likely to become mothers before the age of 20. (National Public Radio)
57% of the fatherless homes in the United States involved African-American/Black households. Hispanic households have a 31% fatherless rate, while Caucasian/White households have a 20% fatherless rate. (National Public Radio)
In 2011, 44% of children in homes headed by a single mother were living in poverty. Just 12% of children in married-couple families were living in poverty. (U.S. Census Bureau)
Children who live in a single-parent home are more than 2 times more likely to commit suicide than children in a two-parent home. (The Lancet)
72% of Americans believe that a fatherless home is the most significant social problem and family problem that is facing their country. (National Center for Fathering)
75% of rapists are motivated by displaced anger that is associated with feelings of abandonment that involves their father. (U.S. Department of Justice)
Living in a fatherless home is a contributing factor to substance abuse, with children from such homes accounting for 75% of adolescent patients being treated in substance abuse centers. (U.S. Department of Justice)
85% of all children which exhibit some type of a behavioral disorder come from a fatherless home. (U.S. Department of Justice)
90% of the youth in the United States who decide to run away from home, or become homeless for any reason, originally come from a fatherless home. (U.S. Department of Justice)
63% of youth suicides involve a child who was living in a fatherless home when they made their final decision. (U.S. Department of Justice)
Children who live in a single-parent or step-family home report less schoolwork monitoring, less social supervision, and lower educational expectations than children who come from two-parent homes. (American Sociological Review)
Even when poverty levels are equal, children who come from a two-parent home outperform children who come from a one-parent home. (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services)
Within the African-American/Black community, about 2.5 million fathers live with their children, while 1.7 million fathers are not living with them. (Huffington Post)
In a 2014 study, only 3% of single mothers fell into the strongest demographic groups, while 44% fell into the weakest demographic groups. (Brookings)
In single-mother households, 50% involve just one child. 30% of single mothers are raising two children on their own. (U.S. Census Bureau)
27% of single mothers were jobless for the entire year while taking care of their children. Only 22% of those who were out of work were receiving unemployment benefits at the time. (U.S. Census Bureau)
The median income for a household with a single mother is $35,400. The median income for a home with a married couple raising their children is $85,300 in the United States. Two-thirds of low-income working families with children are in the African-American community. (U.S. Census Bureau)
Over 30% of fatherless homes are classified as being food insecure, yet only 13% of homes will utilize the services of a food pantry. Over 30% of fatherless homes also spend more than half of their income on housing costs, which classifies the household as experiencing a severe housing burden. (U.S. Department of Agriculture)
Children who live in a fatherless home are 279% more likely to deal drugs or carry firearms for offensive purposes compared to children who live with their fathers. (Allen and Lo)
Pregnant women who do not have the support of the father experience pregnancy loss at a 48% rate. When the father is present, the prevalence of pregnancy loss falls to 22%. (Shah, Gee, and Theall)
For single dads, 39% of households had a family income which was $50,000 or more. 44% of single dads were divorced, while only 33% had never married. (U.S. Census Bureau)
Just a few facts to keep those political conversations interesting over the holidays. Enjoy!