Elle recently featured Taylor Swift in a piece called “30 THINGS I LEARNED BEFORE TURNING 30.” I’ve never hated Taylor Swift, but I’m definitely not a “Swifty” (Swiftie?). I went to her concert once a few years ago, but that was only because someone gave me a ticket for free. I know her songs. I sing along to them in the car, but I don’t understand the general obsession with her (or ANY celeb for that matter). They’re just people, after all.
I read the Elle article. I figured it’d be cutesy, and the majority of it was. She said she’s learned that trying and failing is normal and that blocking out the “noise” is essential. Other little tidbits:
Being sweet to everyone all the time can get you into a lot of trouble. While it may be born from having been raised to be a polite young lady, this can contribute to some of your life’s worst regrets if someone takes advantage of this trait in you. Grow a backbone, trust your gut, and know when to strike back. Be like a snake—only bite if someone steps on you.
I learned to stop hating every ounce of fat on my body. I worked hard to retrain my brain that a little extra weight means curves, shinier hair, and more energy. I think a lot of us push the boundaries of dieting, but taking it too far can be really dangerous. There is no quick fix. I work on accepting my body every day.
Before you jump in headfirst, maybe, I don’t know…get to know someone! All that glitters isn’t gold, and first impressions actually aren’t everything. It’s impressive when someone can charm people instantly and own the room, but what I know now to be more valuable about a person is not their charming routine upon meeting them (I call it a “solid first 15”), but the layers of a person you discover in time. Are they honest, self-aware, and slyly funny at the moments you least expect it? Do they show up for you when you need them? Do they still love you after they’ve seen you broken? Or after they’ve walked in on you having a full conversation with your cats as if they’re people? These are things a first impression could never convey.
I make countdowns for things I’m excited about. When I’ve gone through dark, low times, I’ve always found a tiny bit of relief and hope in getting a countdown app (they’re free) and adding things I’m looking forward to. Even if they’re not big holidays or anything, it’s good to look toward the future. Sometimes we can get overwhelmed in the now, and it’s good to get some perspective that life will always go on, to better things.
I really like that last one. I’ve started to do the same thing.
But then she got political, which was disappointing. In fact, she says she feels as though she has a “responsibility” to use her platform to speak out against “racism” and “disgusting rhetoric.” And no. She’s not talking about the Democratic Party.
I’m finding my voice in terms of politics. I took a lot of time educating myself on the political system and the branches of government that are signing off on bills that affect our day-to-day life. I saw so many issues that put our most vulnerable citizens at risk, and felt like I had to speak up to try and help make a change. Only as someone approaching 30 did I feel informed enough to speak about it to my 114 million followers. Invoking racism and provoking fear through thinly veiled messaging is not what I want from our leaders, and I realized that it actually is my responsibility to use my influence against that disgusting rhetoric. I’m going to do more to help. We have a big race coming up next year.
By “educated,” she clearly means she’s been thoroughly brainwashed by Hollywood. In other words, she’s now a loud and proud #resister, so get ready for that.
There was one other thing she said that kinda rubbed me the wrong way.
It’s my opinion that in cases of sexual assault, I believe the victim. Coming forward is an agonizing thing to go through. I know because my sexual assault trial was a demoralizing, awful experience. I believe victims because I know firsthand about the shame and stigma that comes with raising your hand and saying “This happened to me.” It’s something no one would choose for themselves. We speak up because we have to, and out of fear that it could happen to someone else if we don’t.
It’s not that people like me DON’T want to believe people who claim to be victims of sexual assault. Of course we do. But at the same time, rabid feminists have hijacked the serious topic and have made it about “manspreading” and consent letters and what have you. And whether you like it or not, some women are liars– liars who go out of their way to ruin the lives and reputations of good men. Don’t be mad at us for being skeptical. Be angry at lying feminists for making it this way. Guilty until proven innocent is wrong. It’s actually incredibly irresponsible and ignorant to make a sweeping statement like that. “I believe all accusers even though I don’t even know the facts of each individual case.” You can’t do that. I mean, you can, but you’re really boxing yourself in.
I’m disappointed, but I should’ve known that Hollywood would get to her eventually.