So… here’s the thing about #MeToo.
I think it’s absolutely necessary to condemn sexual assault and sexual abuse. I think it’s wrong for people to use the power and authority they may have over someone else to coerce them into undesired sexual encounters. I absolutely think we have conversations about what is and what is not acceptable behavior.
The problem with #MeToo is it conflates ANY and ALL undesired sexual-ish behaviors to sexual assault. You were not MOLESTED if your coworker asked you for your number. You were not RAPED by the guy that may or may not have accidentally brushed by your butt on the elevator.
It’s about putting things into perspective, and acknowledging that there is a VAST spectrum of what can be considered “inappropriate sexual behavior.”
Calling yourself a “victim of sexual abuse” because your boss winked at you once doesn’t make you “empowered” – it throws every woman who HAS been a victim of sexual abuse (which is an absolutely HEINOUS crime) under the bus.
So yes – I think we need to be STRONG on sexual abuse and its consequences – I also think we need to be honest about what “abuse” looks like.
Not EVERYONE is a victim… FORCING YOURSELF to be one only hurts those who truly are.
With all that said…Lindsay Lohan is coming out to say #MeToo accusers “look weak”…and it’s not a good look for her.
According to Page Six:
“Everyone goes through their own experiences in their own ways. If it happens at that moment, you discuss it at that moment,” Lohan, 32, told The Times. “You make it a real thing by making it a police report.”
Ok – I’m TOTALLY with her on that one. DO NOT WAIT 50 YEARS AND THEN SAY SOMEONE HURT YOU. Do something about it NOW! Before that person hurts someone else.
Then she gets into murky territory:
She added, “I’m going to really hate myself for saying this, but I think by women speaking against all these things, it makes them look weak when they are very strong women. You have these girls who come out, who don’t even know who they are, who do it for the attention. That is taking away from the fact that it happened.”
She did note, however, “I can’t speak on something I don’t live, right? Look, I am very supportive of women.”
Seeeee… I feel like I kind of sort of get what she’s trying to say. “Some women used #MeToo as a way to get attention.” I don’t think she’s wrong.
It’s just her approach that’s kinda ick.
And I’d give her more benefit of the doubt… if it weren’t for the fact that she’s publicly defended Weinstein.
In October 2017, the “I Know Who Killed Me” star released a video defending Harvey Weinstein and urging his then-wife Georgina Chapman to stand up for him in light of a laundry list of sexual assault and harassment allegations against him.
See… I think that she’s right. Some women HAVE used this whole #MeToo thing for attention.
…and she’s one of them.