Daisy and I had a discussion about the most recent allegations against Matt Lauer on our show today. And because we simply don’t belong to the #BelieveAllWomen crowd, what we said is likely going to be perceived as victim-shaming and controversial.
But you know what?
This whole new revelation by Brooke Nevils, who has just outed herself in Ronan Farrow’s new book, is just incomprehensible. She is claiming that Matt Lauer anally raped her one night during the Sochi Olympics back in 2014. She said she went to his hotel room one night after he jokingly swiped her press pass so that she could retrieve it, and then returned to his room later where he allegedly assaulted her. She claims she “wept silently into a pillow” during the sex act, that she said several times she didn’t want to engage in it, but that after it was over and he asked whether or not she liked it, she replied that she did.
And here’s where it gets more ridiculous. Brooke admits to the fact that they had a sexual relationship after that. Like, many many many times. According to Variety, she feels regret about that.
“This is what I blame myself most for,’” she says to Farrow. “It was completely transactional. It was not a relationship.”
She was terrified about the control Lauer had over her career. After her encounters with Lauer ended, Nevils said she told “like a million people” about her situation with Lauer.
But according to Matt Lauer, she never worked for him. She worked for Meredith Vieira, and Lauer had exactly zero control over her career. And interestingly enough, out of the two of them, she still works for NBC.
I’m just gonna say it. If you’re a chick who is legit the victim of a rape, and you decide voluntarily to continue a sexual relationship with your rapist, I have serious questions about your judgment, integrity, and sanity.
If that makes me a victim-blamer:
Don’t give me this crap about a power dynamic. No career is worth allowing yourself to be continually raped. You GTFO, you press charges, you file a complaint, you do whatever you need to do to extricate yourself from that situation. You don’t CONTINUE A FREAKING SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR RAPIST.
This was basically our take on our show today, and that was BEFORE Lauer released his response statement, which I completely believe:
You guys, Matt Lauer is a Grade A A$$hole. He’s a perv, he’s an adulterous scumbag, and he’s a complete douchenozzle in a myriad of ways. But a rapist of Brooke Nevils? Sorry, I’m not buying it.