Let me preface this with saying that I feel a ton of sympathy for individuals enduring transgenderism, transitioning, transition regret, and everything in between. I am not transphobic. However, I do feel as though the issue is pacified and the root is never quite addressed.
“Charlie Evans transitioned and viewed herself as male for almost ten years, before deciding to de-transition.
“I’m in communication with 19 and 20-year-olds who have had full gender reassignment surgery who wish they hadn’t, and their dysphoria hasn’t been relieved, they don’t feel better for it,” she told Sky News, adding, ”I think some of the common characteristics are that they tend to be around their mid-20s, they’re mostly female and mostly same-sex attracted, and often autistic as well.””
‘Oh, you have an issue with x, y, and z?’ *throws pills at you like it’s candy*
That should do the trick, right?
Ha, no. That would be moronic.
Medicating an issue without ever acknowledging or tackling the source of it will inevitably amplify the initial issue at hand, which potentially produces more problems to attempt to mend the preceding issues… it’s a disgusting vicious circle (and by disgusting, I am referring to the gall of pharmaceutical companies to treat deep rooted issues with such nonchalance).
“Now, at 21, the young woman, who only wished to be identified as “Ruby,” wishes to try to undo the damage done to her body and live as a female.
“I didn’t think any change was going to be enough in the end and I thought it was better to work on changing how I felt about myself, than changing my body,” Ruby said.
Ruby compared gender dysphoria to an eating disorder; she’s personally suffered with both.
“I’ve seen similarities in the way I experience gender dysphoria, in the way I experience other body image issues,” she said.
“When I was at my gender clinic to get referred for hormones, we had a session where I went over my mental health issues and I told them about my eating disorder and they didn’t suggest that that could maybe connected with my gender dysphoria,” Ruby explained. “For everyone who has gender dysphoria, whether they are trans or not, I want there to be more options for us because I think there is a system of saying, ‘okay here’s your hormones, here’s your surgery, off you go.’ I don’t think that’s helpful for anyone.””
I certainly can’t speak for everyone, and I’m not about to act like a know-it-all. I am not an expert nor do I claim to be. However, from deep-diving into countless studies, surveys, and reports (specifically reports that analyze the relationship between the suicide rate of transgender individuals who have not transitioned, and the suicide rate of transitioned transgender individuals), the common denominator seems to rely on mental health.
Let’s think about this for a second, without getting long-winded:
Whether conscious of it or not, if an individual is struggling with an issue and chooses to cope with the issue by essentially masking it with something else, it is analogous to repeatedly picking a scab and slapping a Band-Aid over it. Out of sight, out of mind, right? Hurts every once in a while, whenever it is revisited, but would much rather let it bleed and not give a second glance. Our very human nature lures us to a fight-or-flight mode every time and of course it’s easier to choose flight.
“When I was transitioning, I felt a strong desire — what I would have called a ‘need’ at the time — to transition,” she explained, though the transition would eventually have what she underscored were harmful effects. “It can be damn hard to figure out that the treatment you’re being told is to help you is actually making your mental health worse. Testosterone made me even more dissociated than I already was.”
It’s no wonder the suicide rate doesn’t even flinch before or after a transgender transition – if you disassociate from who you even are, in every form you are capable, it becomes easier to disconnect from the individual you once were (in other words, the part of you who has trauma lingering in the ethers of your psyche). This includes the makeup of your character, erasing your self-awareness, thus not seeking refuge for the trauma you are enduring in a sustainable manner.
My heart sincerely goes out to individuals going through this and I hope they are able to seek healing in a healthy manner… at the root of it all.
Feel free to check out this video of Charlie Evans sharing her experience.