I read this ridiculous piece from Arwa Mahdawi at The Guardian, and I couldn’t help but giggle at it.
I’ve written about the unintended consequences of the #MeToo movement plenty of times before. I think this one was probably my best, even though there’s some totally TMI stuff in there.
I also wrote about it right here, in which I quote Claire Berlinksi’s take on the movement, who probably put it better than anyone when she said that it’s a “frenzied extrajudicial warlock hunt that does not pause to parse the difference between rape and stupidity.”
I LOVE THAT QUOTE SO MUCH.
There are dozens of articles on our site about the #MeToo movement and how much it has actually HURT women (particularly in the workplace). And Arwa Mahdawi is pissed about it, y’all. In her piece, she writes about a new study that’s just come out which reveals that, JUST AS WE HAVE BEEN SAYING FOR MONTHS NOW, men are “significantly more reluctant to interact with female colleagues” as a result of the #MeToo movement.
According to the study, men are avoiding one-on-one meetings with female colleagues. Men are reluctant to hire women for jobs that would require business travel or other close interactions. Men are reluctant to hire women they find attractive. And the real kicker? WOMEN are less inclined to hire other women now too. When addressing that point, Arwa writes, “Internalized misogyny really is a bitch.”
Really? More like internalized REALITY, Arwa. As a woman, I get fully pissed off when I see other women trashing and denigrating men and causing unwarranted drama over harmless, stupid crap.
But it goes beyond the harmless stupid crap. There are also the women (and my bet is that Arwa falls riiiiight into this category), who espouse attitudes like this:
Here's an unpopular opinion: I'm actually not at all concerned about innocent men losing their jobs over false sexual assault/harassment allegations.
— Emily Lindin (@EmilyLindin) November 21, 2017
Arwa insists that the idea that men are nervous because they can’t predict what women will consider to be harassment is absurd, because everyone is on the same page about what constitutes real harassment. Except that Arwa is completely wrong. Today, men are accused of “benevolent sexism” for simply OPENING DOORS for women. Compliments are misconstrued as “unwelcome harassment.” Celebrities compare the election of Donald Trump to RAPE. Asking a woman to marry you? That’s also an example of “rape culture.” And if you need more evidence about how this affects the workplace, check out the emails we received about that right here.
And speaking of rape, men’s lives are being ruined over false accusations of it. There are many many many examples. (Duke Lacrosse team, anyone?) Don’t forget – part of the #MeToo movement is the #believeallwomen aspect. Which WE OBVIOUSLY SHOULDN’T DO. There’s this whole thing called due process, which is kinda important, which the #MeToo movement completely ignores, which is the whole reason men are freaked out about the possibility of being falsely accused, which they should be.
Anyway, back to Arwa. Arwa posits that the REAL reason men are afraid of dealing with women in the workplace now is because they are “angry that #MeToo ever happened. They’re angry that they’ve been made to think about their behavior, made to interrogate power dynamics they always took for granted, and they are punishing women for it by refusing to interact with them.”
Men aren’t punishing women, you ignorant twit. They are PROTECTING THEMSELVES, and I don’t blame them.
Arwa is also upset about the term “#MeToo Backlash” because it victim-blames, and it is simply another way of “quietly putting women back in their place.” For crying out loud, Arwa. The backlash isn’t about victim-blaming. It’s about returning to common sense. It’s about centering and balancing and stopping the pendulum from swinging into oblivion. It’s about making sure true predators are punished, and not making a federal case out of a well-intentioned compliment. Keep in mind, that when the #MeToo movement began, women who’d been catcalled used the same exact hashtag as women who’d been violently raped, thereby trivializing the entire movement.
And also keep in mind, women are ALL OVER THE PLACE on what they deem is appropriate and when and from whom. Need more proof? There are a whole lot of women who find Joe Biden to be creepy and gropey. And then there are women like Mika Brzezinski. So if you’re Joe Biden, what are you supposed to do with that disparity? OF COURSE men are going to be gun-shy now. Women are sending them mixed messages all over the place.
Arwa was starting to get backlash about her dumbass column, and so she took to Twitter and posted this:
have had a depressing number of emails about this article informing me that men are right to be afraid because women make false accusations all the time 🙄https://t.co/WirHinqxy9
— Arwa Mahdawi (@ArwaM) August 29, 2019
Note her eyerolling emoji. She simply brushes aside the VERY REAL issue of false accusations, just like her fellow feminist seahag Emily Linden did in her tweet above. Because who cares about men, amirite? DOWN WITH THE PATRIARCHY.
There were some great responses to that.
When men can be completely destroyed financially and have their career destroyed and their mental health destabilized without the benefit of a trial, men are right to be scared!
— Howard (@tecumsehtakes) August 29, 2019
You wrote "most men are perfectly aware of the difference between a friendly hug and a creepy hug." The weakness in your argument is that not all women will share a common "awareness" with the hugging counterparty, and one accusation of inappropriate behaviour can end a career.
— hmmmmm (@readthinkhunt) August 30, 2019
The "eyeroll" emoji lets us know that you're not at all serious about addressing the problem. You just want to push your side of it. Sad, really.
— Dean Martin (@DeanosMartini) August 30, 2019
An eyeroll huh? #MeToo has led to a sea of non-victims clumping themselves in with sufferers of ACTUAL rape, abuse or harassment? Men have been conditioned to avoid females because, every accusation is automatically believed and companies don't want to risk suit for inaction.
— What Do We Call it (@WhatDoWeCallit) August 30, 2019
That and you actually said that men avoiding women in the work place is victim blaming.
You missed the mark completely about why men are avoiding contact or being alone with a women in the work place and instead of validating the real issue you made it apart of your agenda.
— 🐸 Marduk 𒀭𒀫👽 (@Ekudram) August 30, 2019
Arwa followed that tweet up with this one:
If you are a man who is terrified of interacting with women at work, please do DM me and (calmly!) explain why. I'd genuinely like to hear your perspective. But you're not helping your case by calling me a stupid bitch! https://t.co/bEqJ5Lzy9Z
— Arwa Mahdawi (@ArwaM) August 29, 2019
No, you don’t want to hear their perspectives, Arwa. You made that perfectly clear in your FIRST tweet. Here are a few of the responses to her second tweet:
I avoid female co workers in any one on one situation, not for the reasons you mentioned but rather to removed any chance of being falsely accused. Being accused would at the least cost me my job. As you know, the metoo movement is to always believe the accuser.
— 🇺🇸 🌎 Snottgrass 🍻😼 🇺🇸 🌎 (@Snotttgrass) August 30, 2019
Kenaau Reeves gets it
Mike Pence gets it
No man wants their life turned upside by a false claim.
Me Too movement, you created this frankenstein
OWN it pic.twitter.com/7DwOxjyWSn
— michael (@istayswithcuz) August 30, 2019
I think it's ridiculous to lay all blame at men's feet. We're bad if we get too familiar with women, we're bad if we want to avoid women. You, as a woman, surely know that there are some bad, manipulative women out there who will misuse situations to her advantage, no?
— James Dudley (@JaDud711) August 30, 2019
By the way, Arwa is batsh*t, and I say this based on some of her other column headlines. Get a load of these, y’all:
Yeah. That’s who’s bitching about dudes not wanting to interact with women in the workplace. YOU ARE THE REASON, Arwa. You and other psycho feminists like you.
Thanks for making everything harder for normal, reasonable, thoughtful, common sense women out there. You’re an embarrassment to our gender.