Woman Thanks Man For ‘Slut-Shaming’ Her

Hannah Bleau

This is so common sense. I just love it.

Amy Molloy was sitting in a courtyard in North Sydney when a man approached her.

“You better go, he said. “All the local drug dealers are perving on you.”

He totally caught her off guard.

The stranger went on to tell her that she was sitting in a dangerous area.  Bad dudes were creeping on her hard.

“What do you expect when you’re wearing such tight pants?” he told her.

“It would have been funny if he had been joking,” Molloy wrote. “I was wearing a pair of bright green Lululemon yoga pants that are no more provocative than any gym-goer’s outfit. Yet, in that moment I felt like I had walked down a dark alleyway at 3am wearing a nightgown.”

Instead of jumping up and yelling at him for being a misogynistic, slut-shaming jerk, she listened and thanked him.

“I had a choice as to how to respond to this comment. I could deliver a scathing one-liner (‘What do you wear to the gym? Oh, wait, clearly you’ve never stepped foot into one’). Alternatively, I could stand by my fashion statement (‘I like wearing tight pants. They make me feel sexy. Is it any of your business?’).”

“Instead, as I hastily gathered my possessions from the table, I did something, which will probably infuriate many women – I thanked him and I meant it. I don’t think any man has a right to tell a woman how she should express herself – either stylishly or sexually – but in that moment I had to admit the stranger might have a point.”

He absolutely did. He wasn’t slut-shaming, but looking out for this woman. Isn’t that what we want men to do? Respect women and look out for them?

I almost always wear yoga pants to the gym, and if I have to run in a store after, I usually bring a long shirt and tie it around my waist. Why? Because the reality is, this world is full of disrespectful pervs, and there’s nothing I can do about it. The modern day feminist movement doesn’t seem to understand that. No one’s stopping anyone from wearing tight pants, but realize it might attract unwanted attention. Don’t get mad at everyone else. Look out for yourself. It’s not that difficult to understand.

You wouldn’t get those words of advice from the attendees at Amber Rose’s recent slut walk. If you watched any of the footage (God forbid) you’d find women wearing provocative clothing, twerking and holding up signs with the words, “Strippers have feelings too.”

Molloy had a different take, and a refreshing one at that.

“In my situation, the stranger’s comments could fall into the category of ‘concern trolling’. This phrase, coined by slut shaming activists, describes a derogatory comment thinly this is disguised as concern for a woman’s safety. Another example would be, ‘Look at that poor girl in the low cut top – she must have really low self-esteem.'”

“But, did the stranger have a point – even though he phrased it ineloquently. Look at the evidence; I was in an area of the city with a reputation for muggings, I was sitting with my iPad on the table and my unzipped backpack on the ground at my feet with my wallet on show.”

“For the past 30 minutes, I had been talking loudly on the phone to a girlfriend about why a guy she’d met on Tinder hadn’t stayed the night after having sex with her. I was sitting in a high-risk area and I wasn’t exactly going under the radar. Although that guy shouldn’t have told me to leave the area, he was correct when he said I was putting myself in harm’s way.”

She told her fiancé about the incident, and he had a very common sense take too.

“How do you know he was a slut shamer and not a good Samaritan?” he told her. “Perhaps he comes from a conservative family and was really trying to do you a favor.”

“Think about it this way: nobody has a right to steal my money, but I’m still always going to cover my PIN number at an ATM and not flash around wads of currency.”

Yes. Exactly. Bingo. This is common sense people. More please.

h/t Daily Mail

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